This lady is a saint, THANK YOU

As its International Women's Day I want to give a post dedicated to the woman that has to put up with me and all my traits each and every day.  My amazing wife, who I know doesn't get enough credit from me for how she manages her job, a busy house, 3 kids including one with Autism, a crazy dog and me, all on top of her own wellbeing which I know she puts on the backburner a lot.  What I do know is she will hate this call out but its long overdue as I have mentioned doing it a few times.

So we are married since 2009, but the madness started a few years before after we met in Barcode, in Fairview.  After some questionable decision making on her part( it took me asking her out 5 times to get a yes) she agreed to a date and we have been inseparable since.  And I can honestly say she was very much the person who has shaped me into who I am the most.  

So some of the things that now when we look back were all part of my ADHD diagnosis would have driven away lesser people, and she obviously seen something in me to hang around.  From the times I would wander off to be on my own and decompress when I was at her house- even in the middle of family events,  from the times I was ready to sleep after eating, in fact early on I did doze off in a pizza hut. To my need for things to be in a certain order or have to go and say shower at a particular time, she stood by me.

I think she knew inside that there was something going on, and she understood my need for similarity- who else would have organized for me to have my favourite foods  at our wedding dinner including the warm custard for dessert.

As we have grown old and had our family , and our daughter got her Autism diagnosis, my wife did let me in on the fact that she had spoken to my eldest sister before about my possibility of being neurodivergent, and she was right.  She seen things in my daughter that resonated with some of my behaviours and knew that there was a connection.

After I was diagnosed, as I mentioned before following a quite a difficult RSD episode, I did say to her that she didn't sign up for this with me,  and that if she needed to think over the situation she could, without a blink she stood by and is the most understanding person to how I think.  Its not all Roses and sunshine, and I know the strain things like RSD put on her and how long it can take me to pick up on things needing to be done at home. But she has taken it in her stride and not murdered me yet,  though  I'm closer to that then i was when we married lol.

Seeing how she juggles me and our daughter is just unbelievable whilst also giving our sons everything they need, and I know at times she is running on fumes and just keeps going. I cant understand how she does it and il never claim to be able to as I just don't get it but its definitely a testament to who she is as a wife, a mother and most importantly a person.

So yes I know what I don't do enough of , and I may never get the hang of it, I may never say thank you for it all, even when I know I should, but its here for the world to see that I do appreciate it and I owe you everything for staying when others would have run a mile. Those who know who we are know her name and that's what matters, to those who don't know us, that's ok but make sure you look at your partner, wife, mum or sister and say thank you for no reason because I know there were times it was meant to be said but was forgotten.