Task Paralysis

So its been a few days since I posted, and its not that I didn't want to but this week I'm definitely struggling with task paralysis.  I'm 100% sure everyone has experienced this and has overcome it but those with ADHD are quite prone to it,  but it also has an opposite which i will talk about too, which i find is something i am excellent at, but we will come back to that part soon.

So what is task paralysis- its a state of being overwhelmed to the point you cant start or finish a task.  Now as my wife will attest and to go back on a previous blog post she is a saint for putting up with me, I struggle to start housework tasks-not all of them but 90% of them I just don't have the get up and go to do it.  There are a couple of exceptions like Hoovering were il just do it randomly.  But like cleaning up a table, or putting away kids toys etc. I struggle to get them done. Now my wife works a full time job and so i understand she doesn't have the energy to keep the house afloat too on her own so its about trying to figure out how to get that help from me.

I have found a quick dopamine hit in the way she says right quick clean up 30 mins( said in a tone that means move lol) but we get loads done in the time.  Now she shouldn't have to get to this point but its just one of them things with me.  But i will go and do a huge task like clean the back yard top to bottom with no fuss so its a strange one.

 Now I did mention there was almost an opposite to task paralysis and that is if we have a deadline I will do super work to an A+ level in the last 30-60 mins before that deadline.  This I can remember doing in school and it did carry on to my adulthood.   Sometimes I rely on this skill because I know the great hit of Dopamine I get from finishing it when under pressure.  Its by no means an excuse and I know myself my wife needs the support around the house so its just about finding what works to get me on my feet and working.

 Its like other traits of ADHD I don't want it taking over my life day to day but I have to accept there are times when it just grabs a hold but having the support and love of someone who for 20 years has seen these things and never judged them , means I can try and manage them and I know it can be infuriating to others at times but just think what its like from my point of view or those in your life who may be affected.